When Life Forces Your Hand, Embrace the New Chapter

When Life Forces Your Hand, Embrace the New Chapter

“Every new beginning comes from some other beginning’s end.” ~Seneca Like most people, I’ve tried to control many aspects of my life, and this hasn’t always worked in my favor. Just when I thought I had it all under control, life has inconveniently shown me many, many times that I was getting a little too […]

4 Things I Learned from Being Possessive and Controlling in a Relationship

4 Things I Learned from Being Possessive and Controlling in a Relationship

As she stood there watching the puppet show, our eyes locked. I was instantly attracted. After what felt like the longest fifteen minutes torn between the desire to talk to her and the fear of rejection, I mustered the courage to introduce myself. She gave me a smile, then without saying a word, walked away. […]

The World Is Not My Enemy – Why I’m Trying to Let My Guard Down

The World Is Not My Enemy – Why I’m Trying to Let My Guard Down

“Vulnerability is the core, the heart, the centre of meaningful human experiences” ~Brené Brown From a young age I learned that the world is not a safe place—that there are bullies out there that want to harm me and that I have to watch my back. I developed defense mechanisms in order to protect myself, […]

The Only Way to Form Meaningful Relationships with People Who Get You

The Only Way to Form Meaningful Relationships with People Who Get You

“A friend is someone who gives you total freedom to be yourself.” ~Jim Morrison When I left my full-time position at an ad agency and ventured out on my own, I had a clear goal in mind—to connect with likeminded people who align with my highest good. As far as how I was going to […]

Feel Hurt in Your Relationship? How to Get Your Needs Met and Feel Closer

Feel Hurt in Your Relationship? How to Get Your Needs Met and Feel Closer

“The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers.” ~Deepak Chopra I used to handle hurtful situations in relationships the same way. I’d get angry, shut down, get irritated, or just give my partner the silent treatment. This just led to more of what I didn’t want—separation, loneliness, and frustration. So […]

How I Stopped Dismissing Praise and Started Believing Compliments

How I Stopped Dismissing Praise and Started Believing Compliments

“I’ve met people who are embattled and dismissive, but when you get to know them, you find that they’re vulnerable—that hauteur or standoffishness is because they’re pedaling furiously underneath.” ~Matthew Macfadyen It was impossible to miss the dismissive hand gesture and distasteful look on her face in response to my comment. “You ooze empathy,” I […]

The Signs of a Strong Friendship (and an Unhealthy One)

The Signs of a Strong Friendship (and an Unhealthy One)

“Lots of people want to ride with you in the limo, but what you want is someone who will take the bus with you when the limo breaks down.” ~Oprah Winfrey “How on earth am I supposed to survive? I have no friends whatsoever!” These were the thoughts that ran through my mind then when […]

He Broke My Heart But Taught Me These 5 Things About Love

He Broke My Heart But Taught Me These 5 Things About Love

“Sometimes the only closure you need is the understanding that you deserve better.” ~Trent Shelton  I’ll never forget the day we met. It was a classic San Francisco day. The sky was a perfect cerulean blue. The sun sparkled brightly. I ventured from my apartment in the Haight to Duboce Park to enjoy the Saturday. […]

4 Reasons to Let Go of the Need to Plan Your Future

4 Reasons to Let Go of the Need to Plan Your Future

“No valid plans for the future can be made by those who have no capacity for living in the now.” ~Alan Watts I went to college a little bit later in life. Because of that, people often mistakenly believed I was operating on a specific (and somewhat urgent) timetable—as though I was running to catch […]