How a Cancer Misdiagnosis Helped Me Face and Heal from Health Anxiety

How a Cancer Misdiagnosis Helped Me Face and Heal from Health Anxiety

“Trust yourself. You’ve survived a lot, and you’ll survive whatever is coming.” ~Robert Tew “I have bad news. I am sorry. You have cancer.” Sitting in the cold, clinical doctor’s office on a snowy, cloudy January day in Chicago, I was six months postpartum with my daughter, and I felt like I had woken up […]

Why I No Longer Fight for Acknowledgment When Someone Devalues Me

Why I No Longer Fight for Acknowledgment When Someone Devalues Me

“People will teach you how to love by not loving you back. People will teach you how to forgive by not apologizing. People will teach you kindness by their judgment. People will teach you how to grow by remaining stagnant. Pay attention when you’re going through pain and mysterious times. Listen to the wisdom life […]

How Happiness Sneaks Up on Us If We Stop Chasing It

How Happiness Sneaks Up on Us If We Stop Chasing It

One day a man met a hungry tiger. He ran. The tiger chased him. Coming to a cliff, he jumped, catching hold of a tree root to stop himself falling to the bottom where, horror upon horror, another tiger waited to eat him. He hung on for dear life to that thin root. Then a […]

How to Create Happiness Outside of a Relationship and Enjoy More of Your Life

How to Create Happiness Outside of a Relationship and Enjoy More of Your Life

“Remember, being happy doesn’t mean you have it all. It simply means you’re thankful for all you have.” ~Unknown For many years I was single. But I wasn’t just a regular single, I was a miserable one. Rather than enjoying a time in my life when I didn’t have to care about anyone else but […]

Where My Depression Really Came From and What Helped Me Heal

Where My Depression Really Came From and What Helped Me Heal

“How you do one thing is how you do everything.” ~Unknown One afternoon, during a particularly low slump, I was getting out of the shower. Quickly reaching for something on the sink, I knocked an old glass off the counter, shattering it onto the floor. In most cases, one might experience stress, frustration, or sadness […]

Why Productivity Without Presence Is a Recipe for Burnout and Misery

Why Productivity Without Presence Is a Recipe for Burnout and Misery

“Presence is far more intricate and rewarding an art than productivity. Ours is a culture that measures our worth as human beings by our efficiency, our earnings, our ability to perform this or that. The cult of productivity has its place, but worshipping at its altar daily robs us of the very capacity for joy […]

Feel Hurt in Your Relationship? How to Get Your Needs Met and Feel Closer

Feel Hurt in Your Relationship? How to Get Your Needs Met and Feel Closer

“The less you open your heart to others, the more your heart suffers.” ~Deepak Chopra I used to handle hurtful situations in relationships the same way. I’d get angry, shut down, get irritated, or just give my partner the silent treatment. This just led to more of what I didn’t want—separation, loneliness, and frustration. So […]

On Those Hard Days When You Feel Like Nothing You Do Matters

On Those Hard Days When You Feel Like Nothing You Do Matters

“Just a reminder in case your mind is playing tricks on you today: You matter. You’re important. You’re loved. Your presence on this earth makes a difference where you see it or not.” ~Unknown Today I woke up feeling like nothing I do matters. I didn’t want to wake up feeling like this, but I […]

One Question for Anyone Who’s Stuck in a Rut: What Do You Believe?

One Question for Anyone Who’s Stuck in a Rut: What Do You Believe?

“You become what you believe, not what you think or what you want.” ~Oprah Winfrey What do you believe? During the forced stillness of the pandemic environment we’re all living in, this is a question I’ve been faced with more intensely than ever. In particular, I’ve come to question what I believe about myself, and […]