The One Thought That Killed My Crippling Fear of Other People’s Opinions

The One Thought That Killed My Crippling Fear of Other People’s Opinions

“Don’t worry if someone does not like you. Most people are struggling to like themselves.” ~Unknown For as long as I can remember, I have been deathly afraid of what other people thought of me. I remember looking at all the other girls in third grade and wondering why I didn’t have a flat stomach […]

How Not Setting Boundaries Serves Our Primal Need for Acceptance

How Not Setting Boundaries Serves Our Primal Need for Acceptance

“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.” ~Brené Brown I used to believe that others didn’t have healthy boundaries. They didn’t know where to draw the line, and I was the victim of overbearing people. People that would always cross the invisible line. When people crossed that […]

How I Stopped Chasing Men Who Hurt Me and Found Healthy Love

How I Stopped Chasing Men Who Hurt Me and Found Healthy Love

“There are two things you should never waste your time on: things that don’t matter and people who think that you don’t matter.” ~Ziad K. Abdelnour   “What is wrong with me?” I asked myself. Crying in the dark of the night. “Why doesn’t he love me?” I’d tried to fold myself in all the ways […]

When Positive Messages Feel Bad: Why I’m Changing How I Use Social Media

When Positive Messages Feel Bad: Why I’m Changing How I Use Social Media

“How wonderful that we have met with a paradox. Now we have some hope of making progress.” ~Niels Bohr Social media is indeed a paradox in that it has the power to be both good and evil simultaneously. Ironically, one of the most harmful things about social media is the abundance of “positive” messages. You’re […]

How I Found Peace and Self-Love After a Toxic Relationship

How I Found Peace and Self-Love After a Toxic Relationship

When my marriage ended, it left a huge void that I desperately needed to fill, and quickly. Along with my divorce came the unbearable feelings of rejection and being unlovable. To avoid these feelings, fill the void, and distract myself, I turned to dating. And it turns out, it was much too soon. What seemed […]

The Missing Step to Making Your Dream Come True

The Missing Step to Making Your Dream Come True

“A dream written down with a date becomes a GOAL. A goal broken down into steps becomes a PLAN. A plan backed by ACTION makes your dreams come true.” ~Greg Reid We all have dreams, some of them really big. And if we are serious about achieving these dreams, the next logical step is to […]

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Our Worth and How I’ve Let Them Go

The Lies We Tell Ourselves About Our Worth and How I’ve Let Them Go

“You either walk inside your story and own it or you stand outside and hustle for your worthiness.” Brene Brown I was shaking and sweating with fear as I stood in front of my graduate professor for the final test of the semester. I was twenty-two years old at the time and felt like a […]

3 Painful Consequences to Overgiving and People-Pleasing

3 Painful Consequences to Overgiving and People-Pleasing

People-pleasing, overhelping, overgiving—we can give it lots of different names, but the consequences to putting yourself last all the time are generally the same. You may have been raised to see giving and helping as virtuous things. And hear me say, they are. I believe wholeheartedly that it’s a beautiful thing to serve, support, and help […]

3 Things I Realized When I Stopped People-Pleasing and Let Myself Receive

3 Things I Realized When I Stopped People-Pleasing and Let Myself Receive

“Until we can receive with an open heart, we are never really giving with an open heart.” ~Brene Brown The honest truth about needing to please is that we do it to make other people happy. We will sacrifice everything and anything to put a smile on another’s face and lighten their load, while ours […]

Not Happy with Your Life? I Changed the Rules and You Can Too

Not Happy with Your Life? I Changed the Rules and You Can Too

“I really believe in the philosophy that you create your own universe. I’m just trying to create a good one for myself.” ~Jim Carrey If someone had told me years ago I’d one day be serving mushroom mafalda to a former VIP client, I’d have laughed in their face. Not an “I wouldn’t be caught […]