The Best Way to Deal with Dissatisfaction (It’s Not What You Think)

The Best Way to Deal with Dissatisfaction (It’s Not What You Think)

“Trying to change ourselves does not work in the long run because we are resisting our own energy. Self-improvement can have temporary results, but lasting transformation occurs only when we honor ourselves as the source of wisdom and compassion.” ~Pema Chodron, The Places That Scare You In my late thirties, I was a yoga teacher […]

11 Important Things I’ve Learned in 11 Years of Marriage

11 Important Things I’ve Learned in 11 Years of Marriage

“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.” ~Dave Meurer  My husband and I will soon be celebrating our eleventh anniversary. By no means do we have the perfect marriage or are we the perfect couple. Over our eleven years of […]

The One Thought That Killed My Crippling Fear of Other People’s Opinions

The One Thought That Killed My Crippling Fear of Other People’s Opinions

“Don’t worry if someone does not like you. Most people are struggling to like themselves.” ~Unknown For as long as I can remember, I have been deathly afraid of what other people thought of me. I remember looking at all the other girls in third grade and wondering why I didn’t have a flat stomach […]

How Releasing Control Opened Me Up to a Limitless Life

How Releasing Control Opened Me Up to a Limitless Life

“What the caterpillar calls the end of the world, the master calls a butterfly.” ~Robert Bach I have always wanted to create a family. As a child, I lovingly cared for my dolls and fell head over heels for my college boyfriend. Kneeling before me with a ring, he said, “I want you to be […]

Surrendering Isn’t Giving Up: Why We Need to Accept What’s Happened

Surrendering Isn’t Giving Up: Why We Need to Accept What’s Happened

“The first step toward change is awareness. The second step is acceptance.” ~Nathaniel Branden I remember the last time I saw him before my world crumbled. I held up my hand with the ASL sign for “I love you” through the window to him, as he mouthed the words back and got in his car […]

A Simple Guide for Introverts: How to Embrace Your Personality

A Simple Guide for Introverts: How to Embrace Your Personality

“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.” ~Ralph Waldo Emerson The world has a preference for the extroverted among us. In school we learn public speaking, and we are expected to raise our hand and participate in discussions. We act as if what […]

How Not Setting Boundaries Serves Our Primal Need for Acceptance

How Not Setting Boundaries Serves Our Primal Need for Acceptance

“When we fail to set boundaries and hold people accountable, we feel used and mistreated.” ~Brené Brown I used to believe that others didn’t have healthy boundaries. They didn’t know where to draw the line, and I was the victim of overbearing people. People that would always cross the invisible line. When people crossed that […]

The Exhausted Extrovert: How I Stopped Worrying About How People See Me

The Exhausted Extrovert: How I Stopped Worrying About How People See Me

“When we allow ourselves to be vulnerable, we are not pretending, we are not hiding—we are simply present with whatever is going on inside us. Ironically, it is this very feeling of authenticity that draws people to us, not the brittle effort of perfectionism.”  ~Maureen Cooper Most people in my life would call me an […]

Dear Parent of an Estranged Adult: What Might Repair Your Relationship

Dear Parent of an Estranged Adult: What Might Repair Your Relationship

Dear estranged parent, You keep telling me that you have no idea why your son or daughter has cut you out of their life. You repeatedly tell me that you are a wonderful mother or father and did everything to give them a good life growing up. You don’t understand why your son or daughter […]

4 Anxiety-Calming Techniques I Wish I Used When I Freaked Out on a Plane

4 Anxiety-Calming Techniques I Wish I Used When I Freaked Out on a Plane

“When thinking about life, remember this: No amount of guilt can solve the past, and no amount of anxiety can change the future.” ~Unknown I was buckled in on a small, twenty-person airplane, and we were heading toward the runway, when I looked out the window and saw the airplane wheel was wobbling. I gathered […]